Mr Umesh and Mrs umesh came for marriage counselling to my clinic. They are in there 30 s , married for the last two years. no kids. I listned to both the version individually and collectively.There are enough evidence both have lost trust on each other because of their past behavior. each had there own share of MILs (mother in law interference, BILs(brother in law) interference.The root cause ,was they have proved disloyalty to the partner many times.There are also incidence were they have been loyal to each other.
One of the easiest way spoiling relationship is to demonstrate disloyalty to the partner. When ones does not own something it is given least value,.we do not own, we discard,. we treat like a dust,scrap and a waste,
The hero of the above case is a software engineer, without the knowledge of the lady partner he has inserted a recoding device in the lady's mobile.. All the conversation of the lady with her parents was separately recorded by umesh and displayed in umesh's family function without the knowledge of mrs umesh. This recorded conversation has become the talk of the umesh circle( umesh parents, sisters, grand ma etc) except his wife.
Mrs umesh did not know why the behavior of the family has changed.Mrs umesh is being ignored, she is being ridiculed, until one of her grand father shared these fact of recoding festival. when mrs umesh confronted this facts Mr umesh has accepted it saying "it was a fun"
Fun for whom? the same fun if played by the lady against her husband. will the family accept. Mr Umesh has earned disloyalty card. The disloyalty is the root cause for mis- trust, jealousy and suspicion Mr umesh is repenting for his act after counselling. They have realized many of their mistakes and wishing to start off a new realtionship. Let us all wish them all thebest.
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