Dr Sunderam- 4 S couple model for Marriage Relationship

The power of  Indian stories has preserved its tradition of Hinduism, according to the original definition a hindu is person who lives beyond the Indus valley., Hinduism is a culture which is full of stories mainly used to  teach the common  man certain principles and guidelines to be practiced  in the society. The stories are made around three great Heros Shiva, Vishnu and Bramha , there avtras and there families

 I was searching for an ideal model for Indian couples to explain the tradition of Indian marriage bond, I discovered the 4s model for Indian couples to emulate, Sita, Sakthi, satyabama, and sarsawathi roles in their current day to day life, This model i have successively shared in marriage counselling for the last 5 years in my practice.

 The model is based on the priority given by husband (H 1 first and H2 is second) and wife  ((w1 first and w2 is second)in their relationship with their respective partner . Let me explain with respect to the above figure  , Quadrant 1. Sita gave 1 st priority to her husband and second priority to herself, Quadrant 2 siva and sakthi or  artha nadeswara is an ideal concept, which says both husband and wife have equal rights over every activity. Quadrant  3 Satyabama gave 1st priority to her and 2 nd priority to her husband Krishna ( the story of Tualbaram demonstrates this) Quadrant 4 is again an ideal quadrant where sarswathi and bramaha  had great respect for each other and always played a back end role in purnas(stories)

This model i have used in my marriage counselling with many couples. The Five major lessons to be focused are as follows 1. All couples go through misunderstanding which is the test of relationship 2 No couples can live entirely in one single quadrant permanently in their life. 3 All the couples go through transitions from one quadrant to another quadrant. 4 The couples has to jointly discuss , debate and decide  how much percentage which quadrant they are following in their lives 5 The couples should try to move to quadrant 2 and ideal quadrant for marriage relationship